Stand By Me

While choosing your bridal party may seem like the easiest part of wedding planning, it can come with some tricky questions.

If you have a large group of close friends or family, you may feel as though it’s impossible to narrow down your bridal party to a manageable size. Or if you have a small, tight-knit group, you may worry about the size of your bridal party.

But we’re here to put those worries to rest. 

Whether the list of people you want involved in your wedding is a mile long or just a chosen few, we’re here to help you solidify your decision – so you know that who you choose will be the perfect fit to support you, not just at the wedding, but during all the events leading up to the big day and beyond.

Making The Choice

Some may disagree, but there is no magic number for the “right” amount of bridesmaids or groomsmen to have in your bridal party.

The best way to decide who should make the cut for the bridal party is to think about who you can’t imagine getting married without. 

These are the people who have loved and supported both you and your future spouse – because this day is about the love you have for each other and your commitment. 

Keep in mind that being in a bridal party will be a big (and potentially expensive) responsibility. They will be expected to attend various functions and celebrations and may even need to coordinate some of them.

So if there is someone who you want to join in on the fun but may be too much of a jokester, invite them to the parties, but maybe think twice before including them in the bridal party.

One last thing to keep in mind before you make up your mind is how well everyone will get along with each other. 

Your bridesmaids and groomsmen will be seeing a lot of each other, so if some do not mesh well or have had tension previously, that’s something to consider before making the final decision. 

Answering the Tough Questions

If someone asked me to be a part of their bridal party, do I need to invite them to be in mine? The short answer is no. The longer answer is no, but you should be prepared to have an honest conversation with anyone you are not reciprocating with a bridal party invite. 

My fiance and I have a different amount of people we want in the bridal party. What do we do? 

That’s okay! The rule that the ratio of bridesmaids to groomsmen must be equal is outdated. Feel free to let one side have an extra person or two! 

You can always have a groomsman escort two bridesmaids down the aisle or have a groomsman walk solo – whatever works for you and your wedding! 

What if I want someone to be a part of my wedding but don’t think they’re a good fit for the bridal party? 

Keep in mind that there are other roles and ways in which you can involve other loved ones. They can be ushers, read a passage during the ceremony, or even be your flower girls or ring bearers! 

How do I ask, and what do I need to tell them when I do? 

How to ask is up to you, but we suggest keeping it simple. A sweet and simple personalized gift will go a long way to show them how much their friendship means to you. 

You may think that all you need to say when you ask them is “Will you be my [insert chosen role here]?”. But there’s a bit more they’ll need to know, like the date of the wedding as well as a general idea of other events they are expected to attend.

You’d hate to find out your maid of honor can’t attend the wedding after she’s said “yes” to standing by your side!

So there you have it! You now have what it takes to choose your perfect bridal party! We can’t wait to see how much fun you have all together!

You know how this goes by now…come back next month for your next steps, and in the meantime, visit to see more of what The Sadie Jane can offer you!

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